Reflection 15

I think that people are born homosexual. Sometimes when parents have a child who comes out as homosexual they say that they knew it all along. Even in cases where the parents say they didn’t know I think they’re just in denial. To be honest I think it’s more normal for a parent to be in denial about their child’s sexual orientation than to just accept it, especially with our parents and grandparents generation. They grew up in a time where people believe that anyone who wasn’t straight was mentally disabled. People who were gay were usually outcast of society and were sent to mental institutions. Normally the parents see signs that show their child aren’t behaving in accord with gender roles. If they see that their daughter, per se, is into sports and doesn’t like dolls and plays in dirt, they’re most likely going to reprimand that child. They will force their daughter to play with dolls, make sure she never gets a chance to dig in the sand box or play ball. They probably believe that if correct the behavior early on in the child’s development they can prevent that child from being gay. But the thing is, if people learned how to be gay they we would be able to correct their behavior. We could be able to send those children to ‘sexual orientation camps’ in order for them to learn how to be straight and function as society wants them to. But because that’s not possible I believe that people are born gay. The article also talks about either/or and all or nothing. Either you’re one thing or another. Most likely people are going to associate what you are with good or bad. The problem with that is it doesn’t work with most facets of society. People aren’t perfect angels or devil’s advocates. They’re usually mixed with traits of both and the mixture is evident on a spectrum. This is also true when it comes to sexual orientation. Most people aren’t all gay or straight but fall somewhere on the spectrum. You might have a day where as a female you find yourself looking extra hard at another female. But the important thing is that you realize that doesn’t make you gay nor does it make you a bad person. This article really cemented everything I previously believed about the subject at hand.